Being Nice is Bad for Your Health.

Me, being the good girl, learning how to be nice. Now, I'm learning how to be more 'ME' instead!

Being nice and politically correct is bad for your health.

The pain people are struggling with is UNACCEPTABLE and UNNECESSARY.

Emotional pain and physical pain.

Mostly emotional pain, because the root of most physical pain is emotional pain. Really.

Do you know when emotions express themselves in physical pain?

When you don’t express them. When you don’t express yourself.

One way of stuffing down feelings of anger, sadness, or fear for example is to cover it up and be polite, be nice, don’t say or do things that might hurt peoples feelings. Don’t say or do anything that may turn people against you. What if they don’t like you?


We all do this to some degree. And as long as you are aware of it, in control of it, and deal with it in a healthy way, it is not a problem.
But most of us are not even aware, let alone dealing with it in a healthy way.

It is a big...

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You are the one that creates

You are not your body, your mind, your thoughts
You are not your feelings, your emotions, your actions
You are not the breaths that you take or the words that you say

There is nothing for you to have that makes you complete
There’s nothing you have to do that makes you worthy

You are not a separate human being
You are human kind
Never wrong or right- not good or bad

You are not your own judgements of yourself, or of others
Nor are you who you’re judged as by others

Who you are is the driver behind all of it, the captain, the leader
The one that IS
The one that creates out of nothing but a thought, a desire, or dream
Chosen by YOU

You are not a drop - you are the ocean in the drop

You are not a mere community of cells- you are the universe in the cells

Stop living as if you are mediocre! Take the lead and lead, starting with yourself.

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It's the other way around

Experiencing is more effective than hearing. Experience peace with a simple mindfulness exercise in this video.

Mostly we respond to how our body feels. But it really is the other way around. Our thinking dictates how our body feels.

A happy story triggers a joyful feeling and a fearful story triggers a stressful feeling.
Your body reacts to how you feel. If you can choose your mindset it changes how you feel and your biochemistry will change.

Anyone can do this.

Try this out for 30 days: notice how your body feels when you think certain thoughts, and see if you can change how you feel by choosing different thoughts.

Watch this video for more.

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What was I thinking

What was I thinking

Our mind controls our thoughts and choices and we are creatures of habit. We think about 70.000 thoughts a day, 90% of the time they are repetitive and negative. We tell stories about ourselves and others and we believe the negative thoughts about ourselves. Our thoughts create a state of mind and every state of mind create our physiology.

Our negative thoughts are like weeds, and we let them grow out of control. When we take care of ourselves we should weed those negative thoughts out. We can’t flourish if we let those negative thoughts take over our mind.

Mastering your mind is the only way to change how you feel. Negative thoughts activate a stress response and this can negatively affect your health and well-being.

Watch this video to learn more.

 

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I am Light

I am Light, you are Light, we are all Light.

Did you ever hear a song and all of a sudden emotions started welling up inside you? That just happened to me. I just heard this song, not for the first time, but somehow the words struck me this time. I have been contemplating these thoughts for a while now, and I am figuring out what choices to make that are truly in alignment with my inner self. Doubts about my abilities and the choices I made are making me feel small and scared. I think that is why this song, 'I am Light', triggered strong emotions in me this time and I had the urge to share this with you.

Please take the time to read this and contemplate with me. Feel free to share your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below this post or on my Facebook page. I'd like to hear your experiences and thoughts. I am not trying to prove a point, I just want to provoke a different way of thinking.

Even though I was raised by a catholic family, I am not religious and never felt the...

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The Art of Living

Living a healthy, happy life is an art, a balancing act. It also requires practice. The new year is a good time to evaluate and make resolutions. But in fact, anytime is a good time for evaluating where we are at with our life. What do you want to practice this year?

 

What if we could let go of our burdens instead of having resolutions?

Time for a check on our resolutions, if you have any to begin with. Often resolutions don’t work very well, and they are just a set up for failure. Maybe it is too hard to get a clean fresh start because we drag our burdens of the past with us into the new year.

A week ago I went to the monthly guided meditation and dhamma talk by Ajahn Sona. He comes to Kamloops every month from the Birken Monastery to enlighten us with his wisdom. This time, he talked about serenity and peace, and renunciation. Freeing yourself from burdens is a liberating act. Especially at the beginning of a new year, it can give you a fresh start.

To 'renounce,' in...

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Awakening to empowered self-care

It is time to wake up and reclaim our health. Time for empowered self-care.

Life is uncertain. We never really know what lies around the next corner. One thing we can all be certain of, however, is that there will be an end to our physical existence. We just don’t expect it to happen anytime soon, we don’t think or talk about it. In fact, I think we try to bury this certainty under life’s distractions and seem surprised and upset when we are confronted with the consequences of aging and death. Why can’t we be fully aware of our impermanence, embrace it, and feel more alive because of it?

 

Looking for health in the wrong places

In my professional and personal life, I am constantly confronted with people’s losses. The loss of health, loss of function and abilities, loss of income, loss of identity, to name just a few. Often this loss is not fully acknowledged, not by the person experiencing the loss, not by their family and friends, nor by...

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