Where you are is already perfect.
Nobody has to change because they aren’t good enough but because they want to grow.
Resisting growth is asking for trouble.
You already are good enough, you are perfect where you are, you don’t have to change to become a better person. You already are that person.
Do you know what this means? Read the words again and feel that in your body. Doesn’t that feel like a huge relief?
You don’t have to prove anything to anybody
Imagine if all children believe and know that they are already perfect, and what lies in front of them are endless opportunities to learn and grow. Not because they need to become better, but because they are destined to be great and fulfill their dreams.
Imagine what would happen if we all believed that.
The competition would end. The self doubt and fears would dissipate. Only the desire for growth and expansion would remain, without any expectations or pressure.
Who hasn’t used the ‘blame it on the dogs’ excuse for things gone wrong?
Blame stands for:
Behave Less Accountably and More Egocentrically
We all blame or have been a blamer at some point of our lives.
Let me share a true story about myself.
I was a blamer once.
My dad had just passed away. I had made 3 trips back and forth to the Netherlands in the previous 4 months while he was sick, the last one was for his funeral. I was exhausted from all the emotions, the traveling and jet lag.
I really needed some support and a place to feel safe. I was hoping my relationship could offer that when I came home. Instead, I had the bottom ripped away from under my feet and fell in a deep dark hole.
My partner confessed that someone else had become the centre of attention, I was no longer loved and the relationship was over.
It was the beginning of a nightmare, that lasted about 3 years. I didn’t think things could get worse, but they did.