“What on earth am I doing? Who do I think I am? I am fighting an uphill battle, the odds are stacked against me and I will never get my message out.”
This was yesterday.
Words inside my head. I was listening as I felt my self-doubt eat up all the evidence that I am indeed a loser. Old familiar feelings of shame taking advantage of me letting my guards down.
Does this sound familiar?
I know it does, because I hear my friends, family and clients talk about this at some point.
Self-doubt is a huge problem for many, but it doesn’t have to be.
How can I forget the truth of who I am so quickly in a moment where things just don’t seem to work out the way I want them to? Old familiar beliefs that I thought I had let go of eager to grow more roots:
“If I could just settle for less, everything would be fine right now.”
It is tempting, but staying put or giving up is not an option for me. And I know from...
A little over a year ago I wrote the following post while I was with my mom for the last three weeks of her life. I miss her, but reading this again reminded me that I am grateful for the things she gave me, most importantly, MY LIFE!
She deserves nothing less than my very best effort to make my life meaningful and happy. I try and keep that in mind when I let things get to me. She is my greatest cheerleader in a way!
This post is still very relevant today. I’d like to share it with you.
Who is your cheerleader?
There are certain moments in our life when we all pause and reflect. We stop our busyness, take time to go within, and remind ourselves what is really important in life.
The beginning of a life, when a baby is born, and the end of a life.
These are the moments we remember how precious life is, what life really is all about, and what it is not about.
I am in the middle of experiencing a time where a precious...
Where you are is already perfect.
Nobody has to change because they aren’t good enough but because they want to grow.
Resisting growth is asking for trouble.
You already are good enough, you are perfect where you are, you don’t have to change to become a better person. You already are that person.
Do you know what this means? Read the words again and feel that in your body. Doesn’t that feel like a huge relief?
You don’t have to prove anything to anybody
Imagine if all children believe and know that they are already perfect, and what lies in front of them are endless opportunities to learn and grow. Not because they need to become better, but because they are destined to be great and fulfill their dreams.
Imagine what would happen if we all believed that.
The competition would end. The self doubt and fears would dissipate. Only the desire for growth and expansion would remain, without any expectations or pressure.
Who hasn’t used the ‘blame it on the dogs’ excuse for things gone wrong?
Blame stands for:
Behave Less Accountably and More Egocentrically
We all blame or have been a blamer at some point of our lives.
Let me share a true story about myself.
I was a blamer once.
My dad had just passed away. I had made 3 trips back and forth to the Netherlands in the previous 4 months while he was sick, the last one was for his funeral. I was exhausted from all the emotions, the traveling and jet lag.
I really needed some support and a place to feel safe. I was hoping my relationship could offer that when I came home. Instead, I had the bottom ripped away from under my feet and fell in a deep dark hole.
My partner confessed that someone else had become the centre of attention, I was no longer loved and the relationship was over.
It was the beginning of a nightmare, that lasted about 3 years. I didn’t think things could get worse, but they did.